Relationship...What It Means

I’m sure we have all had out share of relationships, some good and some bad. The older and more experienced some of us got, the more we realized what we would and would not accept. When I was in relationships with men, my expectation of the man was always very high. If I was your woman and your were my man, then we were a team. Taking it a step further, my belief system puts a man as the head of the house/family meaning that he was responsible for leading and taking care of his family 100%. As the woman, I was the helper or help meet if you use the biblical term. My job was to help my man, be by his side, lift him up and he in turn would take care of me in all aspects of the relationship. If the man walked in his role; I had no problem taking on a more submissive role. (Disclaimer: this is the christian view of marriage…I am in no way saying that his is the definitive way a relationship should work)

I have been a lesbian relationship for over 5 years now and my view on a same-sex relationship is somewhat different. My wife and I are partners….I take care of her and she takes care of me. Financially we support each other. In our case, we don’t have joint bank accounts. My wife is the money manager…she tells me what our obligations are monthly and I transfer the money into the account. We basically split everything down the middle. I realize that not all same-sex couples work this way, however this type of arrangement works for us. Emotionally I know that we are there for each other and there is mutual support in our endeavors. From the personality standpoint, I tend to be the more aggressive party in the relationship. This does not mean that I take on some kind of man role. I am a woman in all aspects, but my personality is more upfront whereas she is more of the submissive “what do you want me to do babe” type. Even with that type of personality-she can and will be more matter of fact when necessary.

Now to my point. A relationship is best described as a partnership whether you are homosexual or heterosexual. We all want to be taken care of in our own way. We all want that person that will stand beside us no matter what. As human beings we crave that comfort and safety that a relationship is supposed to offer. Considering these things, its amazing to me that many time we tend to settle for anybody just so that we can feel that we are receiving all these desires and needs.

Share your thoughts:

1. Besides being in love with your partner/wife/husband…what purpose would this person serve if they were not able to help you in all aspects?
2. Would you be with your partner/wife/husband if they never were able to contribute to the well-being of you and your family? 
3. Would you overlook all the real aspects of a relationship if the sex was good?

[Via http://aquariussoul.wordpress.com]