Thursday, October 15, 2009

A Friend's Views on Same-Sex Love

The following is a little rant that my friend, Lydia (who happens to be bisexual), wrote for her Writer’s Craft blog. We felt it was a very important message so she’s letting me share it (and her orientation) with you all. Please hear her out.

A man and a woman; a woman and a woman; a man and a man. We see it and hear about it everyday in the form of questions, taunts and proclamations. We always hear about why it’s not allowed, why it’s ‘gross’ and ‘disgusting.’ How it’s ‘wrong’ and ‘not right.’ We always look at these sort of situations as negative, something to be thrown in the trash. But what we never look at is their side of the story. We never want to find out how they are feeling. What if we were in their shoes? How would we react? Well this is their story. This is my story.

 

Say you found the love of your life, but they were the same sex as you. You hide from your parents and family members, friends, people at school, teachers, team mates, so on and so forth, who you really are. You can’t go on dates, can’t show PDA (public display of affection) like holding hands, hugging, quick kisses on the cheek. You have to hide your MSN name and Facebook wall posts. No mushy words traded in the halls all because of what people will think of you, say to you and maybe do to you.

 

Now…let’s put in something even more draining. You were born, raised and taught in a Christian home. You have followed Christ your entire life until now. What do you do? Your God has shunned you, saying that this is a sin. Your parents would be mortified if they found out. You now have nobody to turn to. All alone, except for your boyfriend/girlfriend. So many emotions could be coursing through you at once right now. Anger for the people who shunned you, depression because you’ve lost your friends and family, and appreciation for your boyfriend/girlfriend because at least  they haven’t left you because the both of you are in the same outcast boat. You can’t even turn to God, who says you can ask Him for anything. What are you suppose to ask? “God please forgive me for I have sinned. I can’t help it. I love this person so much.” Do you really think that’s appropriate right now? I don’t think so…

 

So what do you do? What other choice do you have then to hide yourself? Or you could be really brave like I am doing and say to yourself “I don’t care what you people think. Love is love.”

 

Listen…All I’m trying to say is that there is always more than meets the eye. People can be too quick to judge homosexuals. People don’t know what ridicule they have to go through every single day. It’s draining and heart breaking. So before you think ‘Wow, they’re gay?’ put yourself in their shoes and try to imagine the pain they are going through every day.

Now, I personally agree with Lydia 100% and I’m not expecting everyone else to, but I really feel that all the hatred and bigotry needs to stop. I hope Lydia’s post makes you at least think about it from the other side. Please feel free to respond to her questions or her post in general, but please  keep the comments mature and open-minded. Thanks.

- Opus (with special guest, Lydia)

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