Being a lesbian is not easy; to say it is not easy is actually to put it mildly.
I have been a lesbian all of my life, but I have not had an easy time of it because I don’t conform to the norms of lesbianism.
I am what others refer to as an in-between—this means that I am not butch enough to be butch and not femme enough to be considered feminine.
Being a femme is easy and being a butch is easy because there is a category for each of these but being an in-between leaves you longing. What usually happens is that I will meet someone and they will try and put me in a category mostly in the butch variety.
Can some In-Betweens get love too?
Why do you try and label me? Am I not a woman like you?
Why do I need to be harder or softer? Can’t I just be who I am?
The femmes have it so easy because nothing is required of them.
The butches have it easy because everyone knows what to expect from them, but those of us who are in-betweens there is just no place for us in the lesbian community.
Femmes don’t want to make love—they want to be serviced, and butches don’t want to be touched—they want to please.
I want to make love to a woman and have a woman make love to me. I am fine with pleasing but that is not enough to satisfy the part of me that longs to be pleased in kind.
What is an in-between to do when we need love too!
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