So I decided to attend the Queen of Hearts Ball this weekend. Let me start of by saying I will support anyone who is about the movement. A lot of people who think I am shady, I am not, I am just real. And its funny how some of the people who use to speak to me online or in person, don’t speak now because the people they hang out with don’t speak. 90% of the people don’t even know themselves why they don’t speak to me. They are just following the lead of someone else. I bet if you ask them why, they won’t have an answer…lol
Anyway on to the ball….
The venue was really cute. I liked the atmosphere. It was cute for a mini ball. The lighting was good and the drinks were great. 
I got to the ball late and was charged $20 at the door. Really? For a mini ball? A major ball is $25-$30. A mini ball should not be more than $15. I don’t even think the ball Labor Day weekend we charged that much. I paid it though cause I am all about growth and support and plus I’m sure they didn’t know any better. So I didn’t get to see all the categories, due to my late arrival. It’s sad to say that many people are still confused and I am not sure if some people are making this into a kiki or if they are serious about walking balls and having a scene. There was not one experienced person on the panel but one, Baby Doll Iman/Prodigy. So some of the categories I watched to me were unfair. It’s funny how a little birdie told me I was throwing shade to the ball when in fact I showed up to support, yet I was not asked to judge. A legend and someone who lives in Atlanta, to me that was shade. Yet you ask one of my kids who is not experienced and he knows this but wanted to support, so I will give him kudos for that. But still should not have been on the panel. Mind you I had Mother Aunyx Iman on my panel Labor Day weekend. She is unexperienced and to my knowledge never walked a ball but yet I gave her a chance because someone I respected on the scene told me she would represent the House of Iman. And I wanted an Iman on the panel, so I went based on that otherwise she would not have judged because there is no level of knowledge to judge someone. This leads back to people having balls with no experience. Some of the things that were asked could not be answered and some of the categories weren’t portrayed as they should be. And the commentator was not told to give out explanations. No shade, again just being real. I will touch on a few categories.
Runway…now I believe it was open to all. The first person that walked I must say her outfit was very impressive. It looked like she took the time out and prepared for the category. Well done. But that walk. no ma’am. She did not have one stitch of runway. She shimmed down the runway and of course she was not chopped because again, no experienced people on the panel. I wonder if these houses have practice, or watch dvds, or ask other people in the scene that have been walking balls for more than 3 years. And I say 3 years because it is very rare on the women/butch/transman scene to find longevity. Damn near everyone is new.
Women’s Face….very interesting to say the least. I feel a few girls that walked definitely have potential. Keep up the good work. I also think that some girls should have been chopped. Ladies, just because you are cute does not mean you have face. Ballroom face is very different from being a cutie 
(research it)
Open to All Sex Siren…this category was pretty much everything it asked for. Remember though sex siren is not body and you can be sexy with your clothes on!
Performance Open to All….2 Butch Queens walked which were real cute and a women who got chopped. I personally do not think she should have gotten chopped. Her hand performance was on point. She can stand to work on her dips and catwalk. I was confused because since everyone is still trying to learn I thought they would have given her a chance. The reason I got (cause I did ask) was “I don’t think she could have battled the boys.” Well it was open to all, win or lose and even so, don’t discourage her. The point is to get people to keep coming out and build up confidence. That’s the only way this scene will thrive.
Best Dressed Couple…now this I must say I enjoyed the category up until the battle. Everyone was on point!!! They were prepared and well put together. Each couple matched and look liked they belonged together. So now here is the gagger. One of the judges on the panel, who I do not know or have never seen at a ball, screams out she wants to see them kiss, because they are couples. Hold up, pause, rewind. This is BEST DRESSED not Who’s Zooming Who (if you don’t know that category – research it). First of all I was so disturbed because a couple in ballroom terms is 2 people, which means you can potentially walk with your brother or sister for the category. That’s plain gross. Second it is a fashion category so the focus should be on that. Not making out on the judges panel. And again I have to refer back to this is why experienced people should not have balls. At this point, I feel Mother Aunyx Iman should have gotten on the mic and said excuse me this is best dressed. I know for a fact Legendary Mother Aiesha Iman/Prodigy would have chopped the folks for that madness (I have seen her on the panel, she is a beast when it come to judging, and she is just as strict as me), instead Mother Aunyx gets on the mic to thank everyone and yell Iman into the mic. Ummm I have never ever heard anyone be biased at a ball. You are supposed to be fair and not show favoritism towards your house. You never here Legendary Jack Mizrahi at the end of each ball yelling Mizrahi or anyone for that matter. I think its out of line and quite discouraging. I think people are starting to lose the focus here.
If we are trying to make a scene we all have to work together. In no way am I trying to be shady, again I am just being real. I get 6-7 emails and messages a day on Downelink asking questions. And I am happy to help and answer. I feel it is plain wrong just because you have a house name you think you know everything. Shoot I am still learning things. I just found out that it is disrespectful to call a transgendered individual a tranny. I thought it was slang, but hey you learn something new everyday. Anyway, my point is this….I love what people are trying to do and get involved but listen, everything is not about shade and if you really took out the time to get to know people and work with each other instead of against each other, this scene can be a force to be reckoned with. I probably will get ridiculed for writing this but at this point who cares, I am being honest and plus I have 14 years under my belt to back it up. I have let my guard down and my ego go, who’s next?
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